There was a segment called “Misty's Matter's of the heart.” Usually it's something basic to the extent of, “ oh I think my husband is cheating how should I approach this?” type deal. This one Monday's question was something straight from left field. The question was posed to women, if your gay male friend wanted to know what it as like to be with a women, would you let him? We all know that is a out there question but something that would take a lot of thought. First of all I though wow, that is a question for sure. I thought “Hey that is kind of proactive and lets see how open these women of Columbus are.” As more people answered it made me realize so many people had thoughts like, “No they have STI's and that's nasty.” (That was a lot of the callers I heard.) Oh and the one that stuck out the most was this one strong women. “No!, they stick it in booty holes, and that's how Aids/HIV gets spread.” My first reaction was wow, she has some strong feelings about the gay's. The main thing that her strong statement made it seem as if all people thought so negatively about the homosexuals. Why are those views acceptable for people to thinking. Even though Black women are more likely to get STI's like HIV than homosexual's. Why is it always seeming as if homo's will always do wrong. This question, weird as it may be. I think it could spark a bigger debate. The debate of, why are there so many negative thoughts and connotations with your homosexual friends.
Why does it seem as if once you come out as a homo, you are automatically given the wrap sheet full of stereotypes, stigmas and characteristics. For example, as a gay male you are perceived as weak, flamboyant (flamer), disease spreader and so forth. For women you are manish, a tomboy, into softball and or basketball and many more. Yet some of those same things are exactly what all other sexualities deal with. Each one deals with stigmas of being “this or that.” As if sexuality transmitted diseases are only with homosexual's while heterosexual's deal with immunity as far as that goes. What makes that logic seem valid in our community?
